Like Minded Bloggers

I was visiting other Wishcasters from Wishcaster Wednesday and I was intrigued and amazed at how many other people have similar style, taste and attitude as me. I was also surprised at how many other bloggers attend the same workshops, e-camps, and courses I do, as well as how many have badges from the same sites I have badges from.

Right Brainers

Goddess Guide

Art a Day Journal

Wishcasting

Sparkles

etc...

...the list could go on...

I was also amazed at how many people were doing the Artist's Way. For me this is my third go around. I first did it when I was young, then as a twenty something, and now in my...!)@(!)(@(   ahem...anyway... :)

It was nice to see others with like minds. One of the sites asked "Join the Tribe" and I thought, I think I have already! and then I smiled. Thanks to all my fellow wish casters, blog followers and other like minded individuals.

Three Cheers for Like Minds. Let's all keep up the good work and continue to strive forward in life!

Hip Hip Hooray!
Hip Hip Hooray!
Hip Hip Hooray!

Wishcasting Wednesday: What Do You Wish to Focus On?

I wish to Focus on Me.

Maybe to some of you that sound selfish but you have to try to understand. I am a giver. I do everything for everybody, but me. I will give you the shirt off my back, I will help you in any way I can, I will do everything for you.

This time, this year, this moment, I need to Focus on Me.

I need to do things for me.
I need to trust myself.
I need to trust my Truthteller.
I need to work for me.
I need to find living for me that works for me.
I need to make myself happy.
I need to make myself sparkle.
I need to make myself shine.
I need to take care of me.

I recently have been sick. I was down for a week and not well for the week after that. I have not done much good in this matter. I am not helping others if I am not helping myself. I am starting to realize this. I am also seeing how I need to take care of myself so I CAN be there for others.

So you ask, what do I wish to focus on? I wish to focus on me.

A Circus Act in Dating

Being back in the dating world is very interesting, odd and somewhat like a Circus. Many things going on at one time, people spinning plates trying to get your attention, the bearded lady who isn't really what she appears to be, the elephant man with his deformed ways or views or sometimes appearance, and then of course the Main Event, the one who tried to be the showstopper.

I usually prefer to just go along the boardwalk and see what is out there, but inevitably I end up going home unsatisfied and disgusted at what is there. Most times now, I prefer to not even go to the Circus at all. The acts are all just that to me, ACTS! Who can dazzle me the most? Who can capture my attention? Who can be the most appalling is more like what it seems.

The most outrageous things get said to me on these dates, or otherwise implied. do guys really think a respectable female would ever go on a long trip with them, or go back to their place after the 1st date? Has our dating world really turned into this much of a Circus? It amazes me yes. I am appalled. I stand there with my mouth open and wonder if what happened really happened or did I hear it or see it wrong?

Did you really just ask me that?

I end up wondering if the women of today really are open to this type of debauchery and if so, what a horror it is and how terrifying! More scary that watching the High Flying Trapeze artists fly through the air with no net. That is how this experience is starting to turn out for me. I feel like I am flying with no net.

Who is going to be there to catch me when I fall? Who can I trust to catch me? Is there anyone? I stand leery on the edge of the platform looking over and find myself stepping backwards and going down the ladder to the safe ground. Most of these men are not only on the other side saying "It's ok, jump over" but they are also wolves in sheep's costume waiting to feed off  Little Red Riding Hood!

The safest place for me is to not even go to the Circus. I do get lured into going though because it all seems so dazzling but not when invited to go, I go because it is something to do more than it is the enjoyment of it. They all seems to have the same act and same dance and a few of them are appalling, but in the end, I just want to sit at home with someone else and watch it from my TV and when I get bored I can change the channel to hockey or something else more appealing. :)

But alas, I need to endure this outrageous circus performances for awhile because my safety net has not been put back up yet and it make take sometime before that happens. The net needs mended, maybe a few new stitches thrown in and perhaps a few different colors added to make it safe for both performers. I don't know if it truly ever will, but I beleive it will and that is all that matters to me. I am still a Trapeze Artist in Training and lately have been standing on the platform.


" A flying act, she says, is built on trust — but first, each artist needs individual strength and training." (NPR Trust and Training) "Their life literally is in each other's hands,", "so if they don't trust each other, we have a big problem."

Trapeze Artists say the trust they've developed comes from talking to each other a lot whether they're on the ground or "up there." Trapeze Artist Shapin explains, "We always speak. We have fun, [tell] jokes. Sometimes if I have [a] good song, I give it to him and we're singing together, even when we're up there."

Trapeze Artists calls the time they spend at the highest point of the big top "privileged."

One day I will be PRIVILEGED to fly again...until then I guess it is Circus Time....

Back to Non-Conformity-Here's to the Waves!

As some of you may know I am an avid follower of the Art of Non-Conformity. In the recent newsletter I read something that sparked this post I wanted to share with you. Being a Non-Conformist is not easy as I have said before. In his newsletter Chris said he was referring to someone he was talking to at a concert for Ani di Franco...

"Later I heard from someone who said she didn't understand why so many people were interested in this movement. I've been doing these things for years on my own! she said.

I said that's great... if you have never had a family who doesn't understand, or experienced other people making plans for you, or been pressured to do something that would put your dreams on hold, good for you. You are the fortunate exception. (And if that's really the case, I also think you should raise the stakes a little, because where much is given, much is required.)

For most of us, non-conformity isn't something we make a single choice for or against. It's a process of adjusting our life, learning to be comfortable with change, and understanding that we probably have more opportunities than we initially think."

The majority of my friends and family don't get it. They don't understand why I keep coming up with ideas and buying licenses for business and trying so hard to be an Entrepreneur. They don't get why I don't just "work for the man" and go to work every day like a "normal" person. Well, the short end of it, is I am not NORMAL. :)

I am not ready to give up yet. yes , I said YET. I recognize that I am getting worn down. I am starting to feel the effects of trying and failing taking it's toll on me. but I was successful once. I felt it. I lived it. I feel like I can be there again. BUT my definition of success has changed. now I beleive in following my passion and if you follow that passion, the true success will follow. people will desire to help you, money will flow in as needed.

The other line Chris said on his blog was "Ani has the technique and the skills to go along with the passion—but if you can only have one, I think it’s better to choose the passion. Other things will come along later, but passion is hard to fake. And that's why we need people like you, who find their own way to offer something of their own that is bold, passionate, and inspiring for the rest of us."

I fully agree. Many people who meet me and get to know me say I am a passionate person. It is "in me". I think it was instilled in me as a child and it never left. Chris is right. You can't fake passion. I think that is like Drive.

Drive and Passion. 

Either you have them or you don't. I don't think they are teachable. I don't think you can train someone to have them. The person either has them or they don't. It is as simple as that. I do think sometime you can get people to the AHA moment when they realize their passion or realize their potential and then start driving. But it was always in them. They just didn't see it in that case.

I have that passion. I have that drive. For now, I refuse to conform. I am going to "keep on keeping on".

Another blog I follow is called Working for Good. In this Ketith mentions the journey and how sometimes we crash and fall and how we jsut have to get up again.

"As I reflect on my journey through this year, and on the entrepreneurial journey in general, I recognize these moments of heading towards a nose-dive and, essentially without thought, adjusting to catch a wave – moving into flow.Sometimes we crash and have to get up again (another powerful practice with its own value and beauty), but there is something profound about the mind/body’s ability to adjust to facilitate our ongoing movement, growth, and development.
Here’s to the waves!"

Here's to the Waves. The waves of Non-Conformity! The waves of Entrepreneurship! The waves of being myself! The waves of standing up for what I beleive in! The waves of believing in my Truths! The waves of following the Truths! The waves of  going for it!

I agree. Here's to the Waves! CHEERS!

I love to _____ and I rock at it!

My Sparkles course asked us to write some things down that we love and rock at so here goes...


I love to sing and I rock at it!
I love to draw and I rock at it!
I love to collage and I rock at it!
I love to smile and I rock at it!
I love to be happy and I rock at it!
I love to giggle and I rock at it!
I love to dance and I rock at it!
I love to be pretty and I rock at it!
I love to watch tv and hulu and I rock at it!
I love to give to others and I rock at it!
I love to kiss and I rock at it!
I love to hug and I rock at it!
I love to send air kisses and I rock at it!  
I love to read comics and I rock at it!
I love to dress up and I rock at it!
I love to look hot and I rock at it!   
I love to watch movies and I rock at it!
I love to network and I rock at it!
I love to talk to others and I rock at it!   
I love to be passionate and I rock at it! 
I love to live life and I rock at it!        

So there you go. there is my Love and Rock list. What do you love to do and rock at?

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Recently I have been sick. I don't know if I overdid it, I caught something or what happened. I love how everyone asks you "How did you get sick?" like I should just know how it happened. Hi, I am not a doctor nor do I play one on TV.

Kewlest thing ever happened to me this week and no, I was not hallucinating. My friends showed up. not literally like at my door or anything, but they showed up in my texts, on the phone in my emails and people gave me help, encouragement and a drive to get better.

I had people sending me texts like "Get better, people need you" and " You lost your shinyness and we need it back, get better so you can shine again!" I got Facebook message like "I missed your sparkles"

My number one goal in life is to Make a Positive Difference in the Lives of Others and in the song When I Leave by JJ Heller she speaks of a leaving a Fragrance behind. I so much desire to do this. I want to save the world. I want to make a difference. I want to help another if I can.

I do love life. I love to smile. I love to shine. I love to sprinkle fairy dust wherever I go. I love to be silly. I love to sparkle! Most of all, I love that my friends not only let me, but ENCOURAGE me to do so. that makes me so happy. That makes my HEART smile.

To me, positive encouraging word likes this, are the best medicine of all. So to all who are there to life me up when I have migraines, to comfort me when I am down, to give me advice when I need it, and to be there when I "the energizer bunny" actually runs out of batteries and needs to recharge....I say thank you.

And, in true Trisha fashion I send you AIR KISSES MUAH MUAH and Sparkles All Around!!

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GUYS

In this circle and cycle of dating I am learning quite a lot. The funniest and most intriguing thing of all is that guys are all the same. Most unusual dates and interesting dates were the ones from my Speed Dating results-

Mr. IntheNavyNow told me right off his whole family lives with him, which is far to reminiscent of Mr. Artist. Though, I did enjoy the time Navy guy and I talked I think I enjoyed the friendship more than anything else and how do you tell a guy that? I had a great time, but I just want to take your daughter to Wicked and have fun hanging out as friends with you? Hmm, yeah, don't think there is a way to approach that one.

Mr. RealEstate invied me back to his house on a first date to and I quote "watch movies". Yeah right.When I stated I am not that kind of girl, he hasn't called me since.

Mr. Pointer, was able to point out everything he saw wrong in me yet not see why his fiance canceled the wedding 10 days before they were supposed to be married.

and I didn't even give the other ones a chance because after those guys, I saw no point...reality had thus set in.

I did think it was funny however that the guy who set his beer down DURING speed dating and didn't even hardly talk to me put me as a YES and expected me to reciprocate. Dude, come one really?!? You only had 6 minutes to talk to me and you chose to go pee. What was worst, is I was the last female so after my 6 minutes, he could've gone. Uh, no thanks.

And then the Professor from Ames who informed me he didn't need to go out because he had Netflix also requested to see me. Hmm, No thanks, I'll pass.

Moving on...this...this is what I have to look forward to? I am starting to see things in a different light now. I thought the grass was greener on the other side of the fence. I think I am now seeing, it is just different.

When I was in a relationship I had tons of guys telling me "I wouldn't treat you that way." or "I would be different" but I have come to find out that those things are just untruths told to you to pull you away from the man you are with. Once you are away, reality sheds light differently.

Some men will disagree and say that is the difference between the men and the boys. Hmm I beg to differ.

I choose to now lump you all into one category : GUYS

All GUYS are immature sometimes.

All GUYS just don't get what women are trying to say sometimes.

All GUYS think about sex more than they think about other things, some just admit it more than others.

All GUYS find their family important and find it difficult to draw the line of distinction at some point in time or the other.

All GUYS are pigs, eventually.

All GUYS are pretty much the same.

So, an old friend said to me recently that maybe I find 9 out of 10 of what I want and go with that. This is a debacle to me. Is that settling then? I am still trying to figure out what really makes me happy. Is being with someone and not being fulfilled in life worth it? Perhaps being fulfilled in life and being far away from someone is ok? But then I feel lost and forlorn. Maybe it is the someone who cares for you and takes care of you and does everything for you? Though that can get old, one can feel smothered in that environment and like you can't breathe.

I go back to what my mother said, I am 40, I am probably going through my mid life crisis. I am trying to figure it all out. That could be true. But what scares me is what if the end of the world really is near? What is my life were near the end? Deciding who I want to be with is the hardest task of all.

Cuz, if all GUYS are the same...who do I choose if any at all?

My Destiny-H4H

I feel like I am finally doing what God intended me to do :) Heroes4theHomeless www.heroes4thehomeless.org

The song says I didn't stop. I didn't give up. I never lost hope. It is a dream come true. It's funny how different life turned out to be.

I feel that way. It is funny how different life turned out to be. I started this year thinking I was going to do more with my Social Media business but nothing has really progressed in that venture and things really have not moved in that direction. I didn't really know why. But now I do. god had different plans for me. Isn't that usually the case?

Now, I am finally doing my Destiny. Since I started this project back in 2007 under the Des Moines Jaycees it meant a lot to me.  My second ex-spouse and I had struggled previously and we had suffered. In the past I had lived in my car, joined  a gym so I could take shower, parked at Walmart in our SUV or at a grocery store that was open all night so we would be able to use the bathroom if needed, or we parked near restaurant that were open all night as well for that and for food. I have scrimped off food stamps when I was younger with my first husband and after I left him I lived out of my Chevy Nova. Sadly I have been homeless a few times and I know how fast one's life can turn from rose to beets in a  heartbeat.

If you think you are exempt from it, think again. You are on to two paychecks away from being homeless yourself. You are one earthquake or one fire in your home from losing it all. You are one divorce if things were to go sour or one death in your family. Tragedy happens when you least expect and in ways you least expect it. It happens mostly when you are the ones whoa re saying "it will never happen to me." Sadly, YOU are the ones it does happen to.

I used to be in charge of our Emergency Preparedness in our church so my second husband and I were able to survive for months on the food storage we had, the water saved up and the items we learned to store. It taught me how to provide for myself but it also gave me an understanding of how to provide for others. It taught me how to ask for donations and how to take care of another.

With that skill my brain started thinking of Heroes4theHomeless. It only started as a little project but it grew and grew. When I moved to Omaha and I took it to the Omaha Jaycees it grew so big I had to divide up my donations between shelters and missions because I had so much. I won awards for it and it became massive.

I have always felt like God, a higher power, whatever you want to call it was telling em to do more wit this. I felt like I was being groomed for helping the homeless and that the life and things I was experiencing and the connections and training I was learning about connections was leading me to this point in my life. Little by little things started falling into place. Classes I took like Right Brain Business Plan and Sparkles, Goddess Leonie and Soul Restoration all were leading me into positive and encouraging directions to leap into life and go forward toward my goals and dreams and passions. To listen deeply to the truths and what my heart what saying. my heart was saying "The homeless need you. You understand them. They connect with you. you connect with others. You can help them in ways others can't. You need to do this.You need to do this now" 

When you feel strong urges like this and don't listen I think you are really doing yourself a disservice honestly. I think you are also keeping something from someone that you could be helping and I couldn't do that to the homeless community. I have been in my office ONE WEEK this week and we have done so much in this one week it amazes me. I have only been talking to people about it for two weeks and already people are saying they have heard of me. I went home last night with another beaming smile across from face from the Director of The Center who has given me an office for free to work with them on their Homeless Outreach in conjunction with my program.

She said "These are the things Trisha has done and she has done this without funding! Could you imagine what she can do once she HAS money!?"

I couldn't help but smile. I am so grateful to God for giving me the knowledge to be able to do these things. I am grateful to God for allowing me to be homeless a few times in my life so I have empathy for the people in their current situations. I praise and thank God for granting me the connections I have and the ability and capacity to network and be who I am and be social and outgoing so I may use my talents for good and reach out into the community to be able to help the homeless to fill their needs. I am dearly thankful to God for everything he has given me up to this point and everything he will give me going forward. I know this road will not be easy, but I dearly know it will be worth it.

Why?

Because this is my Destiny. :)

Wishcasting Wednesday: What do you wish to transform?

What do I wish to Transform Jaime asks in her Wishcasting Wednesday series? I am wondering for me if it is better to ask HOW do I wish to Transform?

Immediately when I saw this I thought of Calvin and Hobbes Transmogrifier. This great device can change Calvin to be anything he wants. One of the things he desires at one point it to be just like Hobbes. But of course, that experiement does NOT quite go as planned

So he says "Thanks but no thanks", and tries again...

This of course makes me laugh but in reality is so true.

How many us go through these varied attempts at Transformation only to get exactly what we want and then be disappointed? So then we go into efforts to try it over again and then get disappointed again because it wasn't what we wanted again and again?

So, I go back to my original statement I said in the beginning that I do NOT desire of the "WHAT" do I wish to Transform but yet the "HOW" do I wish to Transform?

I wish to Transform by being me.
I wish to Transform by allowing myself freedom.
I wish to Transform by allowing myself the liberty and luxuries of life.
I wish to Transform by having a thicker skin.
I wish to Transform by being open to all walks of life and diversity.
I wish to Transform by being Softer and Stronger at the same time like I desired in Soul Restoration.
I wish to Transform by allowing my Weak Self and Strong Self to unite and understand each other.
I wish to Transform by Walking in the Light and staying out of the Darkness.
I wish to Transform by remembering the Truths and avoiding the Lies. 
I wish to Transform by Forgiving my past and Embracing my future.
I wish to Transform by being the Goddess and Princess I am. 
I wish to Transform by loving the little girl within.
I wish to Transform by owning up to the woman I am becoming. 
I wish to Transform by embracing all of myself, the good and the bad and owning up to who I am
I wish to Transform by not accepting any man who does not also find these values worthy and lofty.
I wish to Transform by having good, solid friends in my life.
I wish to Transform by following my dreams and goals.
I wish to Transform by leaping into life.
I wish to Transform by resting when I need to rest.
I wish to Transform by accepting me for me.
I wish to Transform by loving me for me.
I wish to Transform by being me.