Saturday, January 14, 2017

Feisty, Fierce and Fabulous in 10 Easy Steps

This year I have been working on focusing my goals, desires and habits towards positive and uplifting things. a friend recently bought me a gift of Brave Girls Club courses and then today I got invested in Daily Om Courses.

Out of all the things that seem to resonate with me the words of my title are what keep popping out to me


I strongly feel that is what I need to power through this year.

I need courses and guides and planners and dreambooks that put me and keep me on this path.

So far January isn't over yet but I already feel like I have a great plan for my upcoming year to do just that! Stay on the path. I laugh inside because my mantra for my successful businesses in teh past few years have been "Stay True to the Brand". Of course, why wouldn't I do the same with my own personal life. Stay True to My Path. or Stay True to the Path.

To do this, here is what I have done so far.

Step One: Buy Dreambook and Planner from Dragontree

Step Two: Work Dreambook consistently to focus on my one year, three year, ten year and lifetime goals. (not an easy task mind you when one is fighting colon cancer) As well as stay up to date on regular planning, note taking and journaling.

Step Three: Stay active in Dragontree Facebook group for inspiration and motivation for the plan

Step Four: Get reactivated in Brave Girls Courses (These really helped me back in 2011 when I was really struggling with some interpersonal things and I just knew it would do the same for me now. I am very grateful to my friend who bought me a 3 month subscription to this as a gift)

Step Five: Join Bad Ass Habits from Daily Om (I have done the first two days and am already enthralled with this course)  The habit I have chosen to focus on is Daily Yoga practice. I have had some pretty severe muscle fatigue and neuropathy in my body and hands from my first round of Chemotherapy. Lock jaw, teeth sensitivity as well, and slight nausea, but those went away in a few days. The muscle fatigue and the pain in my hands has been more than I can bear. Luckily after doing two days of yoga, I can type and function with my hands again. Which, for a blogger, make a HUGE difference in my overall emotional well being. I jsut always feel like even I am just typing my words down and no one reads them, I am getting those emotions out and that alone makes me feel better. Then add to it the fact that someone MIGHT see my posts and I MIGHT make a difference in someone elses life, that means the world to me.

Step Six: (This is SUCH a girl thing) Only use the Bad Ass Purse. The Bad Ass Purse is black leather, studded and looks like a motorcycle bag to me. Motorcycles are bad ass, so to me, this purse is also bad ass, kick ass. It makes me feel empowered to use it and make me feel like I can conquer anything.

Step Seven: The Bad Ass clothes (again such a girl thing) I have a black vest that I wear as often as possible. I have been using black eyeliner nearly every chance I get. I put hair chalk in my hair to bring out the fierce and feisty and fabulous in me. I wear what I want, when I want even if others think my style might be a little outrageous. The more outrageous the better! I wear my kick ass (but easy to get into) suede boots or my little gray ones with a silver buckle because both of them say FIERCE to me.

Step Eight: Use Asana to keep all my projects in line and to stay on top of my goals and habits for this upcoming year of 2017

Step Nine: Update and follow my Pursuit of Excellence Goals for this year. Also place in Asana to stay up to date with it.

Step Ten: Live life to those ideals I have laid out. Remember to be Feisty, Fierce, and Fabulous no matter what, all year long, every minute of every day!

XoXo~ Trisha Trixie

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Long Distance Cancer Love: How to Support a Cancer Friend when You Live at a Distance

Many people do not know what to say or how to support their Cancer friends when they live close by but it is much harder when you long distance and really want to reach out or help or connect with someone you know who is going through a cancer battle.

Here are some tips I found from "When Your Life is Touched by Cancer" by Bob Riter

  • Send notes of support. Let them know you are sending positive thoughts
  • People with Cancer often get lots of cards in the beginning but after things go on, those cards of support trail off. Be there for them by constantly sending cards and letters of support throughout their WHOLE battle. Not just at the beginning. The cards and notes they receive weeks and months after are especially treasured
  • Don't be discouraged if you don't get a response or they don't answer their phones. People in treatment often need to conserve their energy.  Know that your contact and attempt at connection really does mean a lot.
  • Educate yourself about their cancer. (Mine is Colon Cancer) Colon cancer is much different than lung or breast cancer. Knowing things on your end makes it easier for them so they don't have to keep explaining which can and does gets very exhausting.
  • Call, even if it feels awkward at first. Though they may not always remember what you said, they will remember that you called and cared.
  • Small gifts, unrelated to illness, are always welcome
  • Reach out to the primary caregiver as well. They are facing a rough road as well having to be the strength and support for their loved one.
  • Take part in cancer walks and donations to help out. It means a lot.
  • If you cant call or write, let them know via social media or text "Thinking of you" or things of that nature to help keep them boosted and supported.
More than anything the person dealing with cancer will appreciate the support in whatever forms you can give.

Distant friends and family can help people with cancer maintain the sense of who they really are and were before cancer.

Don't make their cancer or diagnosis or treatment about you. This isn't a time to be concerned with you, or your feelings, or how their cancer life affects you. This is a time for them. To be there for them. To love them. To care for them. I know I have had a few people say to me how much it hurts them that I have cancer and they can't be around me. It hurts when I hear that because I really want to say to them "You know this isn't about you right now, right?" But I don't. However, I will and am saying so right now so you understand how hard that is for a cancer patient to deal with because it isn't fair for me to have to console YOU about MY cancer.

If you feel cancer is changing your friendship, hopefully it is for the better. Be there for them. They really need you right now. they need your love, care and concern.

If you live close, then by all means, help out when and where you can. But don't bring sickness, illness or sick children around them as that could hurt them more than you know. their systems are weakened by the chemo and illness is deadly to a cancer patient. As much as you want to help, being sick doesn't help in the slightest.

Overall, just being there matters.

Show you love and kindness for them in the best way you can, just show it, do it and be there, one way or the other.

It will mean more than you know, even if you never get a thank you. A cancer patient is overwhelmed and going through a lot more than they proably share or talk about it. Be respectful and help them through it by not making it harder.

Send your love and light and let them know how much you care.

Until next time,

Trisha Trixie 

Monday, January 09, 2017

Cancer Life: Timing is Everything

When the stars line up
And you catch a break
People think you're lucky
But you know its grace
It can happen so fast
Or a little bit late
Timing is everything
You know I've had close calls
When it could've been me
I was young when I learned just how fragile life can be
I lost friends of mine
I guess it wasn't my time
Timing is everything
And I could've been the child that God took home,
And I would've been one more unfinished song
And when it seems a rhyme is hard to find
That's when one comes along
Just in time
You can call it fate
Or destiny
Sometimes it really seems like its a mystery

I know that some people find it every hard to watch me go through this trial of mine. It isn't easy actually going through it either. When I hear this song, I think how lucky I was for the stars to line up at this time. I am sure many who know me might think what a whacked statement that is, since the doctors did NOT listen to me for the past few years when I kept telling them something was wrong. But you see, I can't stay mad about that. I had my moment and now I am passed it. Time to move on. Timing is everything, in all ways and in all places. The timing for me to meet Dr. K, was perfect. The timing for him to find out what was wrong with me, perfect. I got the right doctors, at the right time to get the best treatment possible. I feel like I caught a break. I got lucky. If we didn't find it now, it would have progressed further and I could have died. Now, I have a fighting chance.

I've had a few close calls in my life. Not just with this, but with other things and it wasn't my time. I was young, ten years old, when my father passed. I learned very young, just how fragile life can be. I've moment since then, that by the grace of God I am still alive.

I could have been the child God took home.

But he said "Nope, not done yet!"

I still have lessons to learn and life to live.

I still have starfish to make a difference to. I might be the only one throwing them back in the ocean, stepping into their lives and making the change in their life, that puts them on a better path or on the straight and narrow, or even that ONE someone who changed their whole life. I will never know, but I Do know that I am called to save those Starfish. If you are one of them, thank you for allowing me to make a difference in your life. Thank you for allowing me in. If I don't know you, and you are reading this, perhaps my journey will the difference you need to see. Believe in love. Believe in faith. Believe..
Together we stand. 

You and me babe! We've got this!
Until Next time,
Xoxo Trisha Trixie

Living with Cancer: Know When to Hold em

You've got to know when to hold 'em
Know when to fold 'em
Know when to walk away
And know when to run
You never count your money
When you're sittin' at the table
There'll be time enough for countin'
When the dealin's done
Every gambler knows
That the secret to survivin'
Is knowin' what to throw away
And knowin' what to keep
'Cause every hand's a winner
And every hand's a loser
And the best that you can hope for is to die
in your sleep

Life gives us all different hands. We are dealt those hands and can fold and walk away or we can be strong. Right now, I'm holding em! I am holding my own and fighting the best I can. I am keeping my poker face up and trying not to show my hand. If you look at me, I want you to wonder what I have in my hand. I don't want to show that my aces are gone. I am not going to think too much about this all because "There'll be time enough for countin'
When the dealin's done"

Every gambler knows
That the secret to survivin'
Is knowin' what to throw away
And knowin' what to keep
'Cause every hand's a winner
And every hand's a loser

I always see my hand as a winner, even if it were my time to go because this is the hand I was dealt.

I wear my pain with a smile on my face and encourage you to do the same. No matter WHAT you are going through. You can do it1 If I can do it, you can too!


Go to the mattresses.


Now, let's kick some cancer butt, shall we?

Until next time,
XoXo Trisha Trixie

Friday, January 06, 2017

Shooting Out the Walls of Cancer

Shooting out the walls of CANCER BANG BANG  I AM THE WARRIOR!
Today is Friday January 6th and I keep thinking about Monday January 9th, my Chemo day. Day one. How do I approach this? For me, there is only one be a WARRIOR. Fight this with everything I've got! Put up my dukes, bounce around on the stage, and fight. POW POW!

What other way is there? To lie down and let it take me? Hell no. I've gotten this far through everything in my life, I am not about to let Cancer win this battle! I am a fighter, I will fight Cancer, I will beat chemo and I will succeed and survive! 

Bang Bang, I am the Warrior!

Watch out Cancer, I'm coming for you!