Thursday, July 20, 2017

In case you need to hear it today

In case you need to hear it today:
You are fabulous
You always have been fabulous
You always will be fabulous
because you are the wonderful you that you are.
You are light
You are love
You are happiness
You have so much to offer your family, friends, and the world
You are unique
There is no one like you (even if you are a twin you still are unique)
You are everything that you desire to be
and you are everything that you are
You are you
Fabulous, wonderful, marvelous, astounding, audacious, serene, quiet, loud, picky, pliable, whatever you are ...YOU!
No matter what comes your way you always have the choice to choose Fabulous because you ARE FABULOUS!!
Now, go forth and Be Fabulous!
Today, Tomorrow and Always: #choosefabulous
"When given the option of being fabulous, why would you choose anything else" ~Trisha Trixie


It’s Time to Dance It Out

It’s Time to Dance It Out

Image may contain: 2 people, people smiling, people dancing, people standing, sky, ocean, cloud and outdoor
no matter what you're going through
no matter what trials you have in your life
no matter what adversities
no matter what is happening with you
no matter what is happening with your children or with your family or with your friends
no matter what trials are coming your way
no matter what you're dealing with right now
no matter what you might have to deal with in the coming weeks no matter what is going on it's time to dance it out
Life is ok
life is better than okay
life is awesome
life is fabulous if you aren't feeling the fabulous today I want you to do this
if you're sitting in your chair or lying on your bed not standing I want you to stand
from standing I want you to start moving your body just moving it you can turn on music if you want or you can just sway for me music is easier because I love to dance so if that's 4 U Pick a song Get Up and Dance it out
Why am I having you dance it out?
Because at times in our life we are sedentary we get stuck in our ruts and sometimes those ruts are feeling of helplessness loneliness despair sorrow grief loss frustration irritation a disdain
By dancing it out we are telling our bodies it's all going to be ok
And if your body hurts and you can't move and you don't want to dance it out I say to you tough
yep you heard me get up off your hiney and dance it out
get up
quit lying there and being upset about what's going on in your life and make it better do something about it
if you can't do anything about what's going on in your life you can do something about how your FEELING about what's going on in your life and that means dancing it out
they do it on Grey's Anatomy
they do it on other sitcoms
I've seen my friends doing it and you know what, it works
so today we're going to dance it out
get up
turn on your favorite song and dance it out and if you're really Brave take a video of yourself post it online and at the very end make sure you laugh
because life is all about living and if you're not living life, then you're not living and enjoying all it has to offer
so start today right now this very moment
when you're done reading this get up and let's dance it out
See you on the Dance Floor hugs and kisses and ferrytale wishes Trisha Trixie

Perspective

Life is full of ups and downs. Sometimes just when think we have a handle on things, life pulls the rug out from under our feet just to see if we know how to stand. Often we fall and end up on the ground. Sometimes we wobble a little and say to life "Ha ha nice try but I've got this." Then other times we are lying flat on our back looking up at the sky and we as always, we have a choice. do you choose to look at life from the ground and say "WTF, life, I was doing great til now" then wallow in self-pity and despair about our lives? Or do you choose to look up and say, "What a beautiful sky. What a nice color of blue.
When I was younger my mother and I used to roller skate everywhere. Of course, in the 70's and early 80s that was the thing anywhere. Skates. the problem with skates I have learned after the age of 40 is that we are not balanced in the same way a kid or teen is.
One day, we were skating together under an underpass in Lawndale, Ca. My mother hit a rock and next thing I knew, WHAM, she literally was flat on her back. My mother has SEVER back injuries and issues when I wan very little and I knew that this could be detrimental to her if she landed on her back the wrong way.
As I rushed over to my mom worried and panicked I said "Are you alright? Is everything ok?"
She said "What do you think of that color blue? Could I replicate in my paintings? I really like that color."
I was in awe. My mother could have screamed, whined, made a fit and would have every right. Instead, she saw the beauty in the sky and wanted to make other beauty like it.
I laughed and said, "Is your back ok?"
She slowly got up and said to me "My back is fine. Sore, but fine. Thank you. I guess maybe God doesn't think I should wear skates anymore. " Then she laughed a big belly laugh. then I laughed. It was one of those great learning lesson moments.
Funny thing is. That is the last time she wore roller skates, that I can remember. Even funnier is that I remember the scene.
That day and so many other days my mother never fails to impress me. She is one of the most loving, caring, honest, real and raw people I know. When all that mumbo jumbo about BEING AUTHENTIC came out, my mother was already honoring that, teaching that, being that. AUTHENTIC. REAL. WYSIWYG.
Do you see the beauty when you are down or do you see the problem? How do YOU look at life? Just like the image I shared, it is all about perspective. What is your view? Does it need to change? Are you ready for change? Are you ready to take charge of your life once again and RISE to the occasion?
Is it Time for Fabulous in your life? Then hop on the Fabulous Bus and Let's Ride!

An Opinion is just an Opinion...


An Opinion is just an Opinion...

This really spoke to me today. A reminder that another person doesn't have the right to inflict their opinion on me either. They are allowed to have one. I am allowed to make the choice to believe it or not. Just because they think it and may believe it, does not mean I do. I know myself better than most and am more in tune with my body than most people I know.

Not to mention I know I am Brave and Fearless. Bravery for when I'm afraid I do it anyway. Fearless for the leaps I need to take in life.

Remember, other people have a right to their opinion. You have the right to believe it or not. Ask yourself "Is it true?" Really dive into your heart and you will find the answer.

This is from my friend Isabel Abbot

"To judge another who is in a situation you have never been in and lives an experience you do not know is to enact violence.
We don't get to tell someone they are broken. 


We don't get to tell someone they are healed.

(I would interject...We don't get to tell someone they are afraid)



We don't get to hold our own values as universal truths and demand another share our condemnation of them for not meeting a standard or set of assumptions they never agreed to.

You may not condemn me for being queer because I hold no shame for it and know no wrongness in it so your statements speak only of your beliefs and not my personhood. 


You may not condemn me for being a slut because I hold no judgment for my sexuality or ways of living in this body and I love myself fiercely for every bed entered and left. 



You may not condemn me for being having been homeless or for how I parent or for the ways I find to live with the violence done against me because it implies your own perception are trustworthy and reliable and a thing we share. We likely do not.

I refuse to my own word against myself. 

And so there is no need to pick up another's hurled insults and hold on as if they have meaning. 
Perhaps the salve to the violence that is this kind of judgment is not acceptance or agreement or sameness, but compassion. To suffer with. To care. 
Life is so fucking hard. And so fucking beautiful. And we are here. 
May we walk and stay in love."

Wednesday, July 05, 2017

No Comparing



No Comparing:

Do not compare yourself, your life, your love, your business, your world with others. You are nothing like anyone else. You are a unicorn. Make a horn for yourself if you have to because you are.

You are you.

There is no one like you.

Stop comparing.

The only one you need to be in competition with is yourself.

Be better today than you were yesterday.

Love you.

xo Trisha Trixie

Tuesday, July 04, 2017

The stories we tell

The stories we tell

What stories do you tell yourself
What stories do you tell others
What stories will you leave behind

These are things I think of every single day.

There are the truths we tell ourselves
There are the truths we tell others
There are the truths we leave behind

Then there are lies.
Perhaps you don't mean for them to be lies,
Yet they are lies still

Perhaps you DO mean to share your lies
Perhaps you are seeking sympathy
Perhaps you are seeking empathy
Perhaps you don't even know why you tell those lies.

Some say they have an inner Mean Girl/Mean Guy inside
Some say they have back talk they do to them self
Some say they have no reason why they just do

Stop telling yourself lies
Stop letting the MeanGirl/Mean Guy win
Stop allowing yourself to back talk to yourself

You have so much to offer this world
You have great, insurmountable truths inside you
You do not need to tell yourself or anyone else those lies anymore

Let others love you
Let others see the REAL you
Let others see your Fabulousness!

You are amazing!
You are wonderful!
You are Fabulous!
YES, YOU ARE!

STOP THAT!
I CAN HEAR YOU!

I hear you saying under your breath more words of untruth.

No more lies.

Today, we speak the truth.
Today, we stop telling lies.
Today, we own our fabulousness!

Now go forth and Be Fabulous!
Today, Tomorrow, and Always.

I love you! <3

https://www.facebook.com/FallingIntoFabulous/

You are only human.

You're Only Human..

You have permission to make mistakes
You have permission to fail
You have permission to stumble
You have permission to feel broken
You have permission to feel grief-stricken
You have permission to be sad
You have permission to hide sometimes
You have permission to feel

You are only human.

Give yourself a break.
Stop being so hard on yourself.
Take time for you.
Take time to breathe.
Take time to just be.

You are only human.

Guess what?

You can't do it all
You can't be there for others
until you are there for yourself




You are only human.

I cannot stress this enough.

We are supposed to make mistakes
We are supposed to struggle
We are supposed to have adversity
We are supposed to have trials
We are supposed to fall.

How else will we know when to reach out a hand?
How else will we know to look up?
How else will we grow?

How else are you supposed to RISE UP to become the fabulous people you are supposed to be?

All we need is a little faith
Time to catch your breath
Time to get a second wind
Time for the momentum kick in

Time for Fabulous!

It's ok to fall...I'm here for you until you can stand tall again.

That's what I do.
That is what my Heavenly Father called me to do.
Struggle in life so I could have empathy for you.
So I could understand.
So I could be here for you.

So I could Fall Into Fabulous, for you.

I love you. <3

~Trisha Trixie

www.fallingintofabulous.com

Are you Ready to RISE?



I will never know what it is to be of another race
I will never know what is to face that life.
I will never know what it means to struggle in the face of THOSE adversities.
I will never be Black, or Asian, or Hispanic, or Latino, or anything other than white.
I will never be able to put myself in YOUR shoes in those cases.
I will never know what it means to be judged by those standards.
I will never say I understand because I don't.

I have however been molested, raped, beaten, abused, homeless, lost custody of my children when they were young, lost a father when I was young, faced suicide, suffered anorexia, and now had cancer.

I may not always understand or empathize with your struggle, your trial, your strain of adversity, but I have had quite my own.

I can empathize with that.

I have overcome all that life has thrown at me.
You can overcome that too.
You can overcome ANYTHING you face.
Life is a set of hurdles and obstacles.
We are in the race of life to win.
Face your fears.
Face your adversities.
Face life, love
You do not have to be in the constant pursuit of happiness.
It is already there, waiting for you to see it.

Life is beautiful.
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!
YOU ARE AMAZING
YOU ARE FABULOUS.

It is up to YOU to own that fabulous inside of you.

"I have suffered much in life. In fact, that is the biggest understatement of every century in every existence I have ever known and I am not kidding. I found myself by finding what I didn't want and what I did through dating, business, entrepreneurship, and more. I overcame; I was not just burnt, I was singed. I truly believe I went through the refiner's fire and I was left with nothing but ashes. I rose from the ashes and I came out a Phoenix." ~Trisha Trixie Hunter-Merrill

It's time to RISE UP.

Are you ready to rise?

Saturday, July 01, 2017

Matthew West - My Own Little World (Official Music Video)





I've been caught up
in my own little world
I have only been
population me
I do my best at church
I give as much as I can
But I always remember
there is a bigger picture
I am living my bigger purpose
outside my own little world
with my thoughts
my messages
my quotes
my life
I see that homeless widow
They are a face of a human
What are YOU doing?
Do you look them in the eye
or just pass them by
There is a greater purpose
Are you living it?
Outside your own little world?
Or is it all about you?
My heart breaks
when yours breaks
My own little world
is not about me
There is a bigger picture
Are you missing out?
Stop living in your own little world...

It means more....
It should mean more...
Homeless lives matter
Black lives matter
All lives matter

YOU MATTER!

#alllivesmatter