Make a Choice for Happiness: Negativity BE GONE!

Lately I have noticed how negative things are Facebook. I scoured around Google Plus and other Social Media to see if I was seeing the same results. Funny thing, I did NOT. It seems that only on Facebook was I seeing hostility, anger, frustration and So so much negativity.

I am tired of seeing sick dogs, sick babies, fires, crashes, divorce, political comments, bitching, whining, moaning ,and you name it on the negative line. Maybe people think taking a Facebook break is being an ostrich and sticking my head in the sand, but if I don't watch the regular news, why oh why would I want to relive it all on FB? I don't.

What happened to all the happy people? where are the positive posts? What about "promoting what you love instead of bashing what you hate?"

Where did all the happy people go?

I realize we live in 2014 and things aren't what they told us it would be. I realize people have heartache, despair, anger, anguish and more. I know people want to help those afflicted, hurt, pained, and so on.

I also realize, it is a choice.

For those who know me I have had my fair share of SHIT happen to me, around me, and about me.  I could just as easily be a negative person, being the bitching type.  However, I choose to be uplifting and positive. I wish to wake with a smile on my face. I wish to smile at others and do good deeds. I wish to live my passion instead of working for another. I make positive choices daily, hourly and even minute by minute.

It is not that life does not happen to me, because oh hell yeah it does. I ge shit on more than anyone I know. That's how it seems to go with positive nice people. To others they are viewed as doormats. Not to all, but some.

When those things happen, I make a choice.

Sometimes it is to let it roll off my back and develop a thick skin about it.

Sometimes, I give it the time needed to allow it to affect me, learn from it, then move on.

Sometimes, I acknowledge it for awhile.

Though in the end, I move PAST it.

Misery loves company. You want others to feel your pain. You want to know someone understands you, gets you, has been there before.

But how about putting a Positive twist on it. It is ok to share your life, but why dwell on it? What does dwelling do? Nothing.

Negativity only allows more negativity and that also can affect your health, your life and your relationships.

Because of the negativity I have seen on Facebook I have tried other options.

I have been posting on my Gratitude a Day page and ms Courage. I have focused on other areas of FB and not looked at my feed. But even with that, I still keep seeing negativity on pages and groups.

Years ago, there was NO Facebook. and you know what....??? We all survived. We managed to stay in contact. We managed to share with each other and connect and even sign onto places without using FB info.

So I'm taking a Fb break. I am being super selective with what things I look at and who I interact with and am taking a break.

No more jumping onto Fb first thing in the morning.

I am making a choice.

Make a choice for happiness.

I am, will you?

Until next time,
Xoxo Trisha Trixie

Shiny Happy People are Like Rocks

I live my life very happy and very shiny. I like to be luminous and sparkle and sprinkle glitter of joy in my path. I desire to leave pennies of love and light and happiness behind me imagining that the joy I exude and leave behind is somehow being picked up by others like they are hunting for Easter Eggs or something. The imagery of this even as I type this thought makes the corners of my mouth turn up. Because I often hear how others say to me "You live life so abundantly" or  "I live vicariously through you" and one day I posted a thought...

"I live vicariously through myself"

profound, but true

Happiness is a state of mind and my mind is never where it should be. To some this is a bad thing, yet to me, it is a wonderful adventure in a  Disney-ese presence of mind. Something we learn from Disney movies however is there is often an evil person, a person has to go through some sort of struggle, but in the end there is a happy ending and it all works out.

I know you are thinking, "honey, life don't work that way"

but...it does...

A shiny rock, a gem, a diamond etc was once a piece of coal. The rock was not always shiny.

Rocks were once just a meager ole normal rock.
Then it underwent some sort of refining.
A lot of sand and grit had to pass over them over and over and over and...over.
It had to endure that rough gravel constantly scraping on it and scratching it and buffing it out.
After a very long time, some decades, the rocks starts to shine.
Unless you keep up this process the rocks only stays partly shiny and depending on how you treat it and take care of it, it could go dull again.
To be the utmost shininess it can be, it has to keep undergoing this process

Some rocks have a false shine. They are super shiny when wet and appear shiny, but then they dry out and lose their sparkle. To be truly shiny a rock MUST undergo this type of treatment.

I am using Rocks as an example to ourselves.

For a person to be shiny they must undergo this treatment or process in life. A person may wake up and be a shiny person as a youth, but life happens and they don't stay that way. just like Wet rocks. They are not True Shiny People.

No, for this effect to really take effect to be the most happiest they have to go through the grit, and grind and abrasiveness of life and overcome that. Each time overcoming they become a bit more shiny. The more they endure the shinier they are.

If you understand this logic then you would understand that there are times when the rocks are dull. They start out dull, simple rocks and then get shiny. People must undergo this same thing which means that there are times, when people are not shiny. they are dulling and may need to go through the process again to keep up their shine. With this logic, it would go to say that then it is by means in life that we must endure adversity if we desire to be like the shiny happy people.

Now perhaps, you don't want to be a shiny person. Maybe you are happy being artificially shiny, like a wet rock. Maybe you have gone through some things and decided "That good enough. I am enough shiny now" and stop. Maybe you did not feel you could endure anymore of the shining process. I understand it happens. That choice is up to you.

I desire to make you aware however, that if you want to be a true SHINY HAPPY PERSON you MUST endure the process. YOU MUST. This is life. This is how it works.

These adversities in our life build our character. They make us who we are. They embody us, the build us up or tear us down. They give us strength if we let it, they help us to grow and they help us to be stronger and yes, SHINY.

So if you desire to be one of those  HAPPY SHINY PEOPLE the reality is you MUST ENDURE the tumbling.

YOU ARE A ROCK

Which type of ROCK do you want to be, is the question?

Until Next time,
XOXO Trisha Trixie


Reference : Shining Rocks  Stream Bed Rocks