Thursday, April 17, 2014

Yearning for that Core Desired Feeling: KinShip-Connection-Tribe

I saw this post on FB recently and after reading it I went to repost it and realized I had quite a lot to say on this and so I am sharing here in this space.!EyJhH

#21 and #30 are highly relevant to me and I resonate well with they are saying.n't spend ay more time with me than if I were far away.

#21. Start being attentive to your stress level and take short breaks. – Slow down. Breathe. Give yourself permission to pause, regroup and move forward with clarity and purpose. When you’re at your busiest, a brief recess can rejuvenate your mind and increase your productivity. These short breaks will help you regain your sanity and reflect on your recent actions so you can be sure they’re in line with your goals.

#30. Start noticing how wealthy you are right now. – Henry David Thoreau once said, “Wealth is the ability to fully experience life.” Even when times are tough, it’s always important to keep things in perspective. You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night. You didn’t go to sleep outside. You had a choice of what clothes to wear this morning. You hardly broke a sweat today. You didn’t spend a minute in fear. You have access to clean drinking water. You have access to medical care. You have access to the Internet. You can read. Some might say you are incredibly wealthy, so remember to be grateful for all the things you do have.

 #1 I feel is difficult because I am avidly YEARNING for those connections and kinship with others but lately I feel as though it is only one sided. I want to be with them and hang out and do things together, but I feel like people locally don't want to do things with me. I HEAR long distance friends say "If you were closer, I would hang out with you or do things with you" but people have said that before and then when locally, they do

#1. Start spending time with the right people. – These are the people you enjoy, who love and appreciate you, and who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways. They are the ones who make you feel more alive, and not only embrace who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be, unconditionally.

This is actually one of my Core Desired Feelings "The feeling if Kinship/Connection/Tribe"

I have these misconceptions about those around me thinking they would desire to hang out with me or do stuff with me, that we are close enough that we have the type of friendship that does that. But in every effort to invite others in, make people a part of things ask and desire them to spend time with me, sadly I am still left doing things alone, by myself and such.

Am I approaching this desire the wrong way? Maybe I am coming off as too needy still (i don't think so but who knows) Am I coming off as too abrasive? (maybe my honesty puts others off)

Is there something I could do differently to be the type of person that people WANT to be around? I thought I was, but of course we are human and there is always room for  improvement.

Maybe I am not being grateful enough and appreciating the ones I do have. It perhaps it not about the QUANTITY but QUALITY of those friendships that do.

Or perhaps it is nothing. Perhaps my life just warrants different time freedoms and such that others don't and though their desire to be with me, hang out, do things is there, their life however does not give them that freedom or perhaps they can't or donat make it such.

For those that have spent time with me recently, made me a priority in their lives, and who I know are a aprt of my tribe, I thank you. It means the worlds to me, that you would desire to spend time with me when you could be doing other things. More than you know, it say alot.

Actions speak louder than words and when a person takes the time to spend time or engage in conversation with another, you are telling that person "I value you and value my time with you. You are a priority to me. I desire to be with you or I wouldn't be here."

so thank you.

a lot.

Until next time,

XOXO Trisha Trixie