Thursday, December 11, 2014

Third Wedding Attendance Issues

"I am unable to make it to your wedding. It's not like I haven't seen you get married, I mean I went to your OTHER wedding."

SO, SO, SOOOOOOOOOOOO, tired of hearing this.

I mean, I get it, life happens, you can't afford the fare, or your are having health issues, I understand I do, but then let that be the end of it. Don't add those words. 

Telling ANY bride who has been married before, "Well, I was at your first wedding" is like fighting words. It's like a slap in the face. It's like, saying "I don't want to eat dinner because I had breakfast" Or "Aren't the memories of me being at that one good enough for you? " 

Um, no. I mean, do you want to splice you into the pictures? Do you want me to splice in the memories too? 

I looked it up and found this site that talks a little bit about going or not going to someone's wedding for the third time. 

I asked today on #WeddingWire about it and am waiting a response for advice.

I get that people went to the first one but this one is not the same. I want memories of you at THIS wedding. I want you there because you are important to me. If you weren't , I would NOT have invited you. It is already a small number of invites under 40 persons now. It's not like I invited two hundred to a third wedding. You were chosen as a part of the select few with whom I asked to be tehre with us in our small circle of family and friends. Can't you see how that tells you what an important part of my life you are? I mean, it is not like I willy nilly just invited everyone in my address book. No I asked you and 39 other CLOSE people in my life.

All in all, I will be ok with it. The day will come and go and I will have fun no matter what.

Mostly, I am trying to figure out, how do I tell people to STOP FREAKIN SAYING THAT because it is upsetting and hurts my feelings and to me, really should not be said nor have any bearing and your attendance or not. 

The ONLY time is could be said is if you are NOT gong BECAUSE it is my third wedding and if that is the case, I guess I don't want you there anyway if that is how you feel.

Though, I really do think, people are unable to go for valid reason, which then, Please don't say that to me and NEVER say that to a bride as it IS quite hurtful.

Until next time,
XoXo Trisha Trixie